We do some interesting things we humans. Among them is how we constantly are measuring ourselves and others. It seems to be an unconscious thing – something that can be stopped when one makes a strong effort. Most folks just do it, it’s a way to see how we stand.
When I was in High School it mattered a great deal. It is commonly called the ‘Pecking Order’ after the same phenomenon in the animal world. When it came to physical toughness (often more bravado then strength), or grades (equated to brains then), or beauty….we all sort of knew where we stood. And it was important to know.
Growing up, my family moved often. Each time I was thrown into a new environment, with new kids, the first order of business was to determine my ‘ranking’. Long before I knew who the teachers were, I HAD to know who the Bullies were. AND – determine how to live with that.
As adults the measuring process is usually not quite so blatant. Not usually. No, more often when we observe others it is to see how we can fit together. In order to manage our relationships.
The competitive business world often pressures people. Rather than trying to better a personal best they sometimes strive to be better than each other.
In doing that, it becomes easy to become judgmental. Of course we always judge others by what they do. By what they manage to accomplish, whether it be on the job, in sports, wherever. Vince Lombardi said it best: “Some of us will do our jobs well and some will not, but we will all be judged by only one thing – the result.”
The biggest difficulty in this scenario (if it is to exist at all) is that we do not utilize the same ruler in the them VS me measurement. As much as we count others by what they DO, we measure ourselves by what we INTEND. We allow
ourselves what we would never allow others. That is what armchair quarterbacking is all about.
No one pays for Good Intentions. They only have a value in the making of excuses. It is time we all learned that ANY time we measure or judge others we are wrong. And that the only measuring should be how far we ourselves have come.
This is obviously something which all humanity struggles with, and has since time immemorial. It was clearly stated by Paul in Romans 7:19. “For the good that I would do, I do not; but the evil which I would not do, that I do.”
It’s time for us to raise the bar. To throw off the habits of our youth and put a value on no one. But to lift ourselves up to become the best we possibly can. Each day we have the capability of being a better example of what we want to become. And in that striving, becoming all God wants us to be.
Till next time. Good luck and God Bless. Remember, IdeasWIN, develop yours.
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