What are the things and people that changed you? What experiences shaped your life in a positive way and with a force you can still feel many years later? In this series I am sharing from my life – I would love for you to share yours here too.
In 1967 when I was 17 years old I met my God given help meet, my completer. I met her at a time in my life when I had decided I was destined to be alone, as no woman would be willing to put up with me. Yeah, I know – what a decision to make at 17. Although, but for Martha, I may have been right. We’ll never know. I married her in 1968, and my future was secured.
When I heard Melvin Udall say: “You make me want to be a better man,” in As Good As It Gets, I realized that was what Martha did for me. Not only has she spent the last 43 years creating that desire in me – she has helped & encouraged me every step of the way to be the best me that I can be.
I often feel as though all that I am I owe to her. Now I know that’s not really true. God has given me the potential, and I have developed it myself, but without any doubt at all Martha made me aware of how much more I could be, do, and have.
When I have had times of weakness and struggle she has been my earthly rock. Martha has lifted me when I was down, pushed me when I was stuck, and pulled me when I held myself back. She helped fix me when I got broken on the rocks of life and reminded me of some truths when my head swelled too much. In other words, she completes me, every day.
When I first met Martha she worked for a Travel Agency and has always had the ‘travel bug.’ If you are around her much (as I have been) you learn that the ‘bug’ is highly contagious. She certainly gave it to me. In retrospect, many of the things I love were sparked by our relationship.
Young parents often are forced into tough situations in order to survive in this world. For the first 8 years of my children’s lives I worked the 3 PM to 11 PM shift, six days a week. So I can honestly say that my wife raised my children largely by herself. And she did a fantastic job, as is evidenced by the adults they have become.
Nearly every wonderful memory from my entire life involves us together. I often have said to her that I feel sad for all the people who do not have the kind of relationship we do. I find it impossible to watch a romantic movie without giving thanks for my own personal blessing, my wife.
I know, it sounds positively nauseating, right? Well it isn’t, it’s amazing. And we are not among those people who become “a couple” in thought, speech, etc. Trust me when I say that “we” were never pregnant! But Martha was, twice.
I dreamed of a strong, independent, and intelligent woman as a life partner. Martha is totally all of that. Add in caring, giving, beloved by children and respected by all that get to know her and you can understand why I know I came out way ahead in this deal.
So when you see me, and I have a smile on my face & am whistling a tune – you won’t have to ask why! Blame it on Martha. And if you see me and I am not happy, then you know I just need to get near her soon. Thanks babe, you do it for me.